Why is it, in this advanced civilized world of ours, when we disagree with someone else's opionion we are suddenly cast as bigots and asked to prove our opionions? I've read the two threads, this one and the previous one about politics and I've talked to a couple different people that aren't involved in either thread but have interactions with people of all walks of life and they get some of the same reactions.
Perhaps this post doesn't belong here but in a topic of it's own, however, I'm too lazy today to start a new thread so here it goes...
When someone says, "I don't like the color orange" we don't ask them to dig up a ton of facts as to why orange is wrong to them. When someone says "I don't like tomatoes" we let it lie. When someone says "I don't like so and so" most of us let it go unless we happen to be nosey, or if that person happens to be a part of a so called minority. It doesn't seem to matter that WHY we don't like that person has nothing to do with the part of them that is a minority, all that matters is that they are a minority.
Yesterday, in discussing this paticular topic, I mentioned that I don't like garish cross dressers because I find that they are making a mockery of women. That is my opionion. First I was given excuses as to why they looked that way...no fashion sense...then I was told I sounded like a bigot. I simply expressed an OPIONION.
Everyone, world-wide wants equality and peace, but at the same time, everyone world-wide wants it their way or no way. Without compromise, there can be no resolution or peace but instead an ever escalating cycle of hate and visciousness that eventually will threaten to destroy the world.
I am of the opionion that the woman's movement of the 60's in America hurried into place things that were creeping along very very slowly, but I'm also of the opionion that by pushing it so fast and so hard, many sectors of society where hurt. That's not something I'm going to go into here, you wanna know why this is my opionion, give me your email addy and I'll email my thoughts to you.
Change can't creep along slowly nor barrel along at light speed in society. A happy medium must be found for changes to take place because there are ALWAYS unforseen consquences to societal changes.
As I told Lich yesterday in a private chat with him, I'm not going to vote on the issue of gay marriage if it comes to that. I personally could care less either way. I would however encourage them to take a close look at the tax bracket they will end up in afterwards before deciding on the formal union
...Sometimes it simply sucks to be married and not just living together. For those of you that would cry "But Jassy, you are married!" For my real time husband and I, marriage was for religious reasons, not legal ones, we lived together prior to getting married and had no problems with it from his family nor mine regarding anything. But that was us.
On a related issue, I am all for gays being able to adopt children, there are simply too many unwanted kids world-wide that need stable loving families but I do feel that they should go through all the same tests and checks that a heterosexual couple has to go through. After all, what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
Anywho, don't ask me for facts to back my OPIONIONS, to me it's like asking me to point out scientific facts as to why I don't like pickled bolonga or whip cream. It ain't gonna happen.